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Solitude Journal - Day 3 - Life of a Junkie

This morning I woke up and went for a run, like almost every other morning of my life from past one year. The shining star of our planet, Mr. Sun was yet to wake up completely though, so it was still dark at 6:15 AM. I was the only human being out on the streets I need to run through before I reach the infamous Katy trail. And mornings lately have also been hot and very humid in Dallas, so the first 2-3 miles usually feel miserable. But I always persist and get my runs done. When people get to know I run regularly in mornings, they start saying things like “wow, that’s insane dedication to fitness.” But truth couldn’t be any far from that. Calling me a fitness junkie is like calling me an actual junkie. I never touched substances in my life, and I never really thought of myself as someone who is disciplined enough to exercise every day. When I try to explain this in my trademark mumbling, people get confused and just divert the topic to stuff like weather. This annoys me, and I am internally always like “at least pick a different interesting topic, like formula one”. Sometimes I genuinely wish someone takes interest in me and says “okay, you don’t run for fitness, then why do you run?”. Then I will start explaining the wonderful reason behind why I run by bringing up the story of formula one legend, Niki Lauda.

Niki suffered a horrible crash in the 1976 formula one season, which saw him almost flirt with death. To say he had a long list of injuries and scars from that crash was an understatement. His face was completely disfigured, and the entire incident was just horrific. It would’ve been completely okay for Niki to call it a day and just spend rest of his life writing tragic books about how his glorious formula one career ended. Or he could have made it his life’s aim to ‘hunt’ down all the other drivers who didn’t agree, when he initially proposed cancelling that race, as the conditions were almost undrivable. He could have chosen either of the paths – one is filled with sympathy, and the other is filled with revenge. And important fact is that Niki also didn’t have anything to prove to the world at that point, he was already the reigning world champion. But when I think about the actual choice he took, it sends shivers down my spine. 46 days after that terrible race, Niki Lauda returned to race in Monza grand prix. He was still in pain, all his doctors and well-wishers advised him against racing, but Niki did what he had to do. He had to quieten the inner demons in his head, and the only way for him to do that is by experiencing the wind hit his face while moving at an insanely fast speed in a four-wheeled automobile designed to test limits of both the machine and human driving it.

See, I am no Niki Lauda. I probably have like at most 10% of his mental resilience. But I know a thing or two about those demons inside his head. They don’t let me stay still, and they don’t let me sleep peacefully. So, what I do is put on my running shoes every morning in the hopes that I outrun my demons that day. I am not a masochist to romanticize the pain and suffering involved in it. Most days when I am struggling on my runs, I hate everything and everyone. But I still need to get it done.

If I give this explanation to people, they would think I am insane. Maybe I am, or maybe you don’t get the point, or maybe it’s a little bit of both. It will only make sense when you stop looking at who I am at this instant, and think about my life as a whole, since I was a little kid. I grew up as someone who’s average (and also below average sometimes) across all dimensions of human life. And I also grew up in an environment filled with pressure, expectations and hopes. I have experienced the conditional acceptance one gets when they achieve something nice. I know how lonely and crushing a failure feels. I know how hunger, rejection and heart break feel like. But I don’t want to just blame all these, I did have trouble accepting myself in past unless I was doing something productive that puts me on the path of what this world defines as success.

So, I have a lot of demons that perform a well-orchestrated dance of terror in my head each day. And there are not many people in this world who are even remotely interested in watching that dance, and lying to me that it is beautiful, despite it being horrific, like the crash Niki suffered. There is also this thing about getting addicted to other people’s acceptance and validation of me, like I am some form of a junkie. I sometimes suspect it is just part of what makes someone a normal human, but I am not sure, I wish someone were there to tell me the truth. But there’s no one, so I just run instead. Now tell me what kind of a junkie am I?

It’s comforting for me to remember that Niki finished fourth in that comeback race. It is a huge deal, considering the pain he had to endure to drive that day. We can confidently say that this is a man who outdrove his demons. Similarly, I outrun my demons on each and every run, regardless of pace, distance, weather, and location. People rarely ask me what I’d do if I can’t run anymore. But when they ask, I will tell them I will just outwalk my demons. Say that response annoys someone, so they break my legs, and ask me “what will ya do now?”, I will be like “aight, lemme just outcrawl my demons.” Heck, there is no shortage of these verbs in my dictionary

 

      

 

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