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Solitude Journal - Day 6 - A Brand New Day

I think the concept of post-credit scene is one of the brilliant inventions in modern cinema. It gives a reason for people (at least, for those who are curious enough) to sit through the credits and read through names of technicians who were instrumental in creating that movie. But I remember there was a time when I used to hate this concept. It’s because I was an impatient youngster who didn’t want to sit through a never-ending stream of credits just to catch a brief sixty-second scene. I was also a youngster who purely watched movies out of my passion for story-telling. But I am not that young anymore and developed an inkling of what others may call ‘patience’ over time. I also saw my passion for movies fizzle out in between because I was too focused on big potato stuff in my life. But life smacked me in the face with those same potatoes, and I had to find a way to distract myself from that pain. So, I decided today to go watch Spider-Man: Brand New Day, and this was my second time watching it in a movie theater.

I don’t necessarily consider this Spider-Man movie as the best superhero movie ever made, nor is it a mesmerizing theatrical experience. But I have only watched a limited number of movies twice in a movie theater in my life time, and this is one of those. It’s because this tells the story of a lonely guy who is struggling to deal with his emotions, and is also unable to completely move on from his past. Sure, he does have cool powers that let him swing through sky scrapers in NYC. If I were him, I’d just go for a swing whenever life feels heavy and lonely. It’s my way of defying gravity to feel less burdened and maybe swing alongside flying birds to feel less lonely. But still, all those cool web slinging stunts aren’t going to magically erase the emotions and thoughts in my brain. I know at the end of the day I am still returning to my tiny apartment with all the tiredness and pain. I know I will have to spend the night alone, eating Maruchan and endlessly checking my phone to see if I got any messages. No amount of arachnid powers, cool gadgets, or potatoes are going to make up for living with loneliness.

I also sometimes feel disgusted with myself when I let my emotions out and they seem to overwhelm others. Even though there are no egg shells on the ground I walk on, I still like to walk gently to not be too much. But there are times when I forget how to walk gently and my feet accidentally stomp on the ground to let my emotions out. I always hated that emotional and sensitive side of mine, and tried my best to keep it subdued deep inside. But this movie reminds me that some emotions are meant to be expressed, and you should not try to restrict them forcefully. Of course, these emotions will be ugly and make you feel like you are being an unfriendly neighbor, but it’s important to not let yourselves be defined just by those weak moments.

There are also a few things about this movie that I cannot relate. For example, movie builds up this complicated and emotional problem of Peter’s loneliness, and just solves it at the end with him consciously deciding that he won’t be alone anymore. Their reasoning is that loneliness is a choice Peter made to save his loved ones, which made him unhappy, so he later goes back on this by choosing not to be alone anymore, and everything’s solved just like that, and we see credits roll. I wish loneliness was that simple of a problem to solve, but it is a lot complicated. Some part of loneliness is always enforced on you by circumstances, and you can’t undo that. Trust me, I have tried and failed. Instead of demonizing those circumstances, I am trying to accept them and move forward. I can be sitting alone on top of a building watching a beautiful sunrise, and currently my brain focuses more on the “alone” part of it. My hope is that I will move forward to a point where my brain shifts the focus to beautiful sunrise, and loneliness will just be a minor sub plot in my story. Because it’s after all a privilege to watch beautiful sunrises and have time to think about small potato stuff like loneliness.

There were actually very less audience for this movie today in the theater, I was sitting by myself with all the seats beside me empty. So, I didn’t have to hold back with tears in a movie theater for the first time and I let myself cry when I found a scene or a dialogue to be relatable with my struggles. Once the movie ended, I sat through the entire credits and post-credit scene because I knew I had nothing else planned for the day and I didn’t want this movie to end. But it ended, I got out before I was kicked out, and I was walking around the mall a bit. Then I remembered something from the time I used to be an impatient youngster. I lived in a small town, but a few times I got to visit metropolitan cities, I used to go see their shopping malls. I used to wish that someday I will be successful enough to live in such a metropolitan city, and get opportunities to visit malls and buy random stuff that I couldn’t afford at that time. I realized I am currently living in a metropolitan city and I am walking inside a mall with a Lego store, so I decided to fulfill my young self’s wish and bought some Legos. I am okay with this loneliness if it means I get to realize my young self’s dreams.

I like to think of every day as a brand new day, but not in the sense that every day is an opportunity to conquer this world and light up some fireworks. There’s a silent hope inside every day for me that time will help me learn how to accept some of these emotions and circumstances. It’s not as exciting as fireworks, but it’s peaceful, like watching a sunrise from the top of a sky scraper.   

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